Social Talk 社交语言
Social ocassions for conversation range from small comfortable gatherings like a dinner party among friends to big, intimdating crowd scenes like a Washington cocktail party. In between are events like weddings and Bar Mitzvahs． Each one is different but the principles of conversation are the same： be open, find the common ground with your partner, and always listen.
社交场合有大有小,小的有温馨舒适的三五个朋友间的聚餐晚会,大的有聚者芸芸的华盛顿鸡尾酒宴,不大不小的有婚礼和成年仪式。场合虽有不同,但交谈准则却 是一致的：坦率、寻找你和谈话对象的共同点、随时注意倾听。
The Greatest Question of All Time
Remember, asking questions is the secret of good conversation.I''m curious about everything and if I''m at a cocktail party I bring that curiositv with me. I often ask my favorite question："Why？" If a man tells me that he and his family are moving to another city："Why？" A woman is changing jobs："Why？" Someone roots for the Mets："why？"
On my television show I probably use that word more than any other. It is the greatest question ever asked, always will be and it is certainly the surest way of keeping a conversation lively and interesting.
最佳话题
记住,提问是促成良好谈话的秘诀。我对任何事物部 觉得新鲜有趣,参加鸡尾酒宴也不忘带上好奇心。“为什么”常常是我偏爱的问题。如果有人告诉我,他家要搬迁到另一个城市了,为什么呢？一位女士跳槽了。为什么 呢？有人为棒球队而狂热。又是为什么呢？
在我主持的电视节目中,“为什么”这个字眼使用的频率是最高的。这个问题永远有新意,绝对是保证谈话生 动有趣进行的法宝。
How to get out of a Conversation
If you find yourself stuck with a real bore and simply feel it''s time to end a long conversation and move on, there''s always one guaranteed way to get out of the conversation."Excuse me, I gotta go to the rest room."
If you make it sound urgent enough, no one will take offense at your departure, When you come back start another conversation, Only this time
with someone else.Or if you spot Someone you know nearby you can make your escape with,"Staceys have you met Bill？" As Stacey is shaking hands with Bill you can say！"I''ll be back in a minute, but I know you two have a lot to talk about."
At a busy cocktail party, they won''t be surprised if you don''t come back in a minute. Of course if your first conversation partner is a killing bore, Stacey may never forgive you. So use this technique with caution.
怎样从交谈中脱身
假如你发觉自己已经陷入一个乏味之极且无边无际的话局,有必要侍机结 束,那么有一个办法是百无一失的。“抱歉,我要去一趟洗手间。” 这句话如果能说得迫不及待,没人会对你的离席表示不满。回来后你尽可 另辞新话题,不过这一回要更换新的谈话对象。又或者你想把一个熟人撂开, 可以藉口说：“史戴西,你认识比尔吗？”在史戴西与比尔握手时,你说： “我一会儿就回来。不过我知道你们俩会有许多共同的话题。”
在一场热闹的鸡尾酒宴上,你就算迟迟不回他们也会不以为意,当然了, 假如你前面的谈话对象非常索然无味的话,史戴西也许将永远不能原谅你。因此,使用这个办法时务必要谨慎。
Talk between Sexes
Talk between the sexes especially between two people who just met may be the hardest form of talking． It is for me. When I was dating in high school and into my 20s and 30s, it was a serious no, no for a girl even to call a boy or a woman to call a man on the telephone, It just wasn''t done. Your parents would tell you,"Nice girls don''t call boys. Boys call them,"But they didn''t really have to tell you that． The girls wouldn’t call you anyhow.
In those days a strict unwritten code governed how young men and women behaved toward each other. Members of the opposite sex never gave each other clothes as gifts, not even a sweater, Well maybe a necktie or a pair of gloves． Anything else was considered much too personal. Good book． Nice wallet． Nothing more intimate than that． Young men and women certainly never took overnight trips to the beach or anywhere else, even with their steadies and the code word said, don''t call him. He''s supposed to call you."
与异性交谈
在异性之间,尤其是在初遇者之间展开谈话可能是最难的。对我来说是这样,我从在中学约会起直到二、三十一为止。无论是女孩给男孩打电话还是女人给男人打电话都是不可以。绝对不可以的。你的父母会告诉你：“好女孩是不给男孩打电话的,应该是男孩打给她们 。”不过她们也未必就真会告诉你。 女孩总是不给你打电话。
那个时候有不成文的条例严格规范男女问的行为举止,异性间不能互赠衣物,甚至毛衣。领结扣手套或许还可以。其他诸如好书、质地优良的钱包都被 列为私人物品,没有比这更能表示亲呢的东西了。年轻男女不应到海滩或别的 地方外宿,哪怕是和自己的男女朋友去。规定是：“不要给他打电话,该让他打给你。”
现在这些禁忌已成为过眼云烟。
对于初遇者尤其是异性问的淡话,我的建议是,要尽早在谈恬中多了解对方,使他们对你爱好的领域产生兴趣,保持你谈话的自然风格,假如你是个机智恢谐的谈话音,看看她是否也一样,如果你是位严肃的女士,看看他是否同样,假如你关心政治,热爱体育、电影。或是都喜欢,看看他是否也喜欢。若他或她与你不问．在兴趣方面大相径庭,礼貌地给自己找一个借口走开。在别处肯定还有你更喜欢。
Today all those thtaboos are history.
My advice in meeting people and especially in talk between the sexes is to learn as much as you can about the other person as early in the conversation as possible. Engage them in areas that you''re interested in and stick to your natural conversational style. If you''re a witty bantering sort of talker．see if she is too. If you''re a woman who is on the serious side, see if he is.If you like politics, or sportS or movies, or all of the above, see if he does, If he or she is not like you, and isn''t interested in the subjects that interest you, excuse yourself politely and then move on. There''s bound to be someone else in the room that''s more fun for you to talk to.
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